Dating With HIV Or AIDS – How To Turn Rejection To Your Advantage

For some dating is a difficult time, however for those dating with HIV or AIDS this time is even more complicated. This is most notable early on in relationships. Instead of this being the exciting fun time of getting to know one another, it becomes instead a time of concern, with fretful thoughts coming back to rejection.

No one enjoys being dumped or rejected. However if you have been a bit of an idiot and did or said something you should not have, then it is something you can rectify for next time, for you are in control of your behaviour. However should your dumping be due to something you have no control over such as your health, then this rejection can cause immense pain. For there is no altering your AIDS or HIV status. Control has been stripped from you.

It is at this time that it is vital to remember that the world is full of ignorant people. People who are uniformed and unaware of things that make up things they do not understand. Obviously this does not make the rejection of dating with HIV or AIDS any easier. But it does give you deep down knowledge that if this person is so intolerant of things they do not fully understand, then they were not right for you in the first place. So sooner or later the relationship would have come to a head anyhow.

Once you have real emotions for someone, it does not matter what package they bring with them. For those who feel real attraction, obstacles are purely bumps in the ground to be swerved around not walked away from. Examples of this are all over the place; mixed marriages, people finding love after having horrific accidents and so it is for those with health problems including AIDS and HIV.

When someone is hurt they can take to hiding away. This is no different for those whose rejection comes from being HIV positive or having AIDS. Dating with HIV can be hard in itself, just the fear of rejection is enough to dampen any wishes to try and find the love of ones life. So then should rejection happen, individuals can feel that it is useless to try and find someone to love them. Subsequently they give up in order to protect themselves from further hurt.

Obviously those dating with HIV must at some point inform their potential partner of their health and upon hearing this information any rational individual would feel a little shocked. But if they really care they would also want to know more and expect to be notified of the consequences and risks. Any person who really liked you and I mean really liked you, would not walk out on the relationship exclusively for this reason. If they thought you amusing and attractive before your declaration, they will still subsequently find you so.

Strong impassive clarification of your condition will really aid building confidence and sincerity into a relationship. Make clear how you manage your condition and talk about safer sex. All this really does help extinguish the fear; both your fear in dealing with dating with HIV and theirs about learning of your condition.

Remember you are a really nice person, who has so much to offer. Remember you too have the right to be loved. Never allow your AIDS or HIV condition make you think otherwise. People are successfully dating with HIV or AIDS all the time. Therefore take pride in yourself and ensure that any person you pick as a potential partner is the type of person you really deserve.

Remember rejection is not within your exact control. However how you control your reaction to the rejection is! Instead of allowing your condition to turn you against dating with HIV, use it instead to acquire genuine evidence of how others really feel about you. Permit dating with HIV to give you added insight into judging just what type a person you are dating, by seeing into them.

In conclusion whenever explaining your situation to others always remembers how wonderful you are and how much you have to offer to a relationship. In addition should rejection follow, remember this is not your issue, it is theirs. So never take ownership of it. Nor lose sight that you have just saved yourself time which would have been wasted getting to know someone that was not for you anyway!